Views:710 | By: Wanjiru | Act: Visit Business What are expectations?

"Expectations are premeditated resentments." I believe this slogan, which apparently originated in 12-step programs, contains some useful, practical information for all of us about the psychology of expectations.

According to Google, expectations are: “In the case of uncertainty, expectation is event that is considered most likely to happen. An expectation, which is a belief that is centered on the future, may or may not be realistic. A less advantageous result gives rise to the emotion of disappointment”. Which is 100% true.

What causes expectations?

Human beings have a natural tendency to pin their hopes for happiness on fulfilled expectations. There is nothing wrong with this, as long as we have good reasons to believe that fulfilling an expectation will make us happy, and we take the necessary steps toward fulfilling those expectations. "Good reasons" might include us knowing from past experience that certain things make us happy. For example, I know from experience that my two lines of successful and quality code will inevitably change the whole day vibe and the feel of fulfillment. I, therefore, expect this experience each morning after my cup of coffee.

# Setting goals (or expectations) motivates us, excites us.
# High belief in ourselves

# Trust

# Sometimes overthinking things that are not there.

# expecting something in return after doing/helping our friends or loved ones.

Should you stop having expectations?

Your expectations shape your reality. They can build or ruin your life, emotionally, mentally and, physically. You need to be extra careful and aware of the expectations you harbor as the wrong ones make life unnecessarily difficult. Be especially wary of the expectations you have from people you consider alter ego. Lowering your expectations can help you reframe how you view your relationships with others.