Views:658 | By: Wanjiru | Act: Visit Business There are times when we feel like we put so much effort into our relationships that we aren’t on the same page as our partners. Whether we show them, love, by doing extra jobs around the house, expressing how we feel about them, or giving them a big hug at the end of a hard day, nothing seems to be working. Whatever you do to try to express love for your partner, they just don’t show their love for you in the same way, how does that happen?

The way we communicate love to our partners must be done in our spouses ‘love language’. This concept means that every person receives and understands love in a specific language and what makes us feel love isn’t necessarily the same for our partner.

All-time affirmation:

While we all want appreciation from our spouses, literal words of kindness can bring you to their best spot. A simple “I love you” can be all it takes or saying “I appreciate what you did for me” can really show them your love in the most effective way. If using words of affirmation is your partner’s primary love language, express your love to them with the spoken word, but use them well. Your partner will take everything you say to heart, whether good or bad, so be careful what you say during a lover’s quarrel. Give them praise, you’ll quickly see your partner shifting into a better, lighter mood!

Gifts:

Gift-giving is part of life, especially on special occasions like birthdays but your partner receives love by receiving physical things when it isn’t a holiday. It’s a physical token of your appreciation and shows them you’re thinking of them. To your partner, it shows you understand them with something as simple as a homemade present or flowers you picked on the way home.

Physical love

From simply holding hands, hugging, kissing, sitting next to each other, and making love, your partner understands touch as your way of showing them, love. If their primary love language is physical touch, they need to literally feel your presence when you are together. It’s a very direct way to express love to your partner and can be quite effective when delivered with tenderness and care. Next time they’re standing in the kitchen, simply give them a hug from behind or a soft kiss on the forehead to light up their moods.

I believe that everyone has their own love language and that’s their identity to their spouse. As Gary Chapman said, “The person who is in love has the illusion that his beloved is perfect”.